It was almost warm outside today, with a high reaching almost 60 degrees. I texted Ethan to see if this would be a good night to FaceTime. We never have gotten into a schedule with calls. I’ll think everything’s fine and that we’ve all just adjusted and then I’ll think again that maybe I need to be being more intentional. It’s like that with relationships, where you tend to drift without the efforts to keep from drifting.

So we talked with him for a while tonight. He was playing his game with other boys from back home. Fortnite just came out with a LEGO version. I can’t believe it’s taken them this long to come up with something like that. There are other things I prefer more than video games as far as activities the boys can do. I’m a little scarred from some of the Facebook group posts I’ve read from wives who are at their wits end with the gaming. You wouldn’t want that for them.

But I do like that they at least can be social with them. The other paper I’m working on is about disorganized attachment. I have to start out by writing what conditions are necessary for healthy human development starting with infancy and across the lifespan. So reading about that too has had me thinking more about the ways I am interacting with my kids. The nice thing about brains is that they can be rewired.