While out walking the course I overheard a couple not talking. She was on the phone with someone on their way to the meet, giving them directions on where to turn and what it looked like. After hanging up she said out loud something like, “To think that someone would call and ask me something about directions, it’s so crazy. I am definitely not that girl.” I kept waiting for the response but it never came.

I looked behind me. He was looking straight ahead, expressionless. Had he not heard what she said? They looked to be in their early seventies, still mobile and able to walk. The silence went on and I turned back around. How many times had she said things with no one there hearing? I’m not saying it was the kindest thought but it’s the one that I had: “What makes a person turn so dull?” I meant the man.

Oh geez. It’s not easy. These relationship issues that we encounter on occasion. How quickly things can turn from, “We’re good, I’m happy”, to “How is it you’re still not understanding my needs?” I recently read the concept of needs being challenged. If I remembered where I would say. It isn’t so much that needs aren’t real but that we put too much emphasis on them, and I almost said I’m not that girl either.