The past four days I have been feeling tremendously better. I wrote a few days ago (which I ended up deleting) that I’d had a setback with my walks and spent much of last week in bed again. That week in bed brought even more physical healing to my still weak but getting stronger again body. Besides the day I had a cyst removed from the top of my head, and one other day at the end of last week, I haven’t needed any anxiety medication for the past three weeks. This has been a huge answer to prayer for me.

Josh and I walked outside earlier this morning. Each week I’ve been able to go a little bit farther on the camp road. It’s been rainier this past week so I’ve done more walking inside. The first day I did two walks of 7 minutes and 5 minutes. The next day it was 8 and 6, and the day after that I did 10 and 10. I stopped keeping track after that.

I can go farther with someone walking with me. The first time I asked Josh to go with me I said, “Can you walk with me to the sign and back?”, the sign being about the distance from here to that first tree on the right. Parts of this have felt more like rehabilitation than getting over an illness. I have yet to know what to call this peculiar period of my life other than “this time”.

In past years I’ve felt sad to see winter leave. Not this year. I’m not shooing it away but I’m looking forward to watching the grass hit it’s momentary neon green before it deepens into its darker emerald color for the spring. The woods begin to fill back in and the white tails of leaping deer again will hide before our eyes. The sun stays longer.

“He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth.”
~1 Peter 2:22~

It’s been bothering me so much, I needed to come back here and say something different. Something I said here yesterday followed me into the evening and continued to disturb me into the night. I won’t repeat it. But I found myself wanting to shake off the entire repulsive chain of a sentence, to get it as far away from me as possible.

I thought I was just being honest. But when the words come out of you in a place where you can see them, when the darkness comes into the light as they say, the lie you believed becomes so obvious. I need truth to come along, to wash me off and make me clean, because in Jesus, the truth is, “I am not subject to the kingdom of darkness.”

This is what the death and resurrection of Jesus is all about. He comes to liberate our bodies from the bondage of captivity. He frees souls from sin and ties them to him. “He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls (1 Peter 2:24-25).”

I find these words to be quieting and comforting. Psalm 91:4 says, “He shall cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you shall take refuge; his truth shall be your shield and buckler”. We find Jesus with us always, in the presence of every evil, saying, “This is my body. My body belongs to me. My body is a part of me.” He covers and speaks to every lost and wounded part of us, loving us back to an incorruptible whole.

I have minimally tried explaining to people that the anxiety is not in my mind, it’s in my body. That is simply the undeniable truth, and is some ways it’s own revelation. It is my body experiencing unpleasant feelings. The symptoms then alert my mind. The mind can almost instantly make the body feel worse, depending on the thoughts it has. But something I have noticed is that thoughts alone, no matter how calm, positive, or rational, do not have the power to make the body feel better. At least it doesn’t for me.

This is a stereotypical example, but allow me to use it to illustrate my point. We are probably all familiar with the husband telling the wife to “Calm down” joke.

About a week and a half ago I found a book on my dresser called, “Healing Trauma”, by Peter Levine. This is where I keep the medical/health books I’ve deemed worthy of keeping. I had gone to my dresser to see if there was anything from my book stash that I could purge, but ended up seeing the book, picking it up, and reading through it. The word trauma is kind of a buzz word these days, but don’t let the word itself alarm you. I’m someone who’s of the mind that simply being alive on this earth is traumatic.

Humanity is the race of the walking wounded.

So in the book he talks about befriending your body. It sounds almost too simple and goofy when you start to read it, but I’ve spent the past week and a half sitting here on my bed touching my arms, my hands, my legs, and talking to them. “These are my legs. My legs belong to me. My legs are a part of me.” I’ve discovered I don’t like touching my hands. They feel small, weak, and fragile, and those are not feelings I enjoy much at all.

I despise the fact that my body is vulnerable, and subject to harm, injury, illness, and death.

I had this thought, too. It’s interesting how my mind wants to constantly point it’s finger at the body. You’re having a heart attack. A stroke. Seizure. Cancer. Auto-immune disease. Your adrenals. Your brain chemicals. Anything but pointing the finger at itself.

Anything but love an imperfect body.

Anything but love.

But love.

Love.

It’s just been slow. That’s what I keep telling people because I don’t know what else to tell them or how else to describe it. I get up about 7. At the end of January to wake up brought instant anxiety and what I described as my equilibrium being off. I dreaded having to get up and use the bathroom, because to do so seemed to tick off my body and cause it to throw some sort of neurological fit. I was able to stay in bed, journal (Lord!), text, and occasionally get up to talk to my parents or sister. I was at their house.

Today I woke up at 7, in my own house. My body did not feel gripped by any kind of nasty frozen tension or anxiety. I got up and made myself breakfast. I could comfortably eat. Using the bathroom was a normal and unremarkable experience. I energetically greeted and interacted with my husband and children, just as we had done the night before having a wonderful time during my daughter’s 14th birthday dinner. I went downstairs and started a load of laundry. The little boys and I came upstairs to clean.

After filling a garbage bag and helping them sort out some things in their bedroom, I was ready to lay back down again. That’s kind of where I’m at right now. I feel so much more normal, but still not normal. I can be up for a little while, but rest for much of the day. I’ve been outside going for walks again, no longer than five minutes, but a lot farther than I was able to go at the beginning of February. The past two days I’ve gone up and down the small hills by the side of our house. It has been slow, but I’ll take it.

There comes a point in times like this where all that’s left is to wait on God. You’ve done what you can do. You’ve said what you can say. You’ve laid it all out there and the saying and doing have reached their limit.

I have never, and I mean never, been this physically struck down, or had a physical recovery take this long. God’s not showing up in my bed each morning with his maps and itinerary saying, “Okay, here’s there plan…”

Josh and I went and met with an older but familiar Christian couple over the weekend. I informed them ahead of time of my physical and overall weakened condition, and let them know we would probably not be able to stay too long.

But I am saying “NO NO NO” to anymore seclusion and isolation. I told my husband six months ago, that should God grant us another season of life together after this one, there are two things I am insisting on having.

I can’t remember what the first thing was. But the second one was “Friends”. I didn’t say this out loud but in my mind I was thinking to myself, “I will not submit again to another long season of friendless ministry.”

These people took us in and loved us. While I’m sure they were concerned about me having to excuse myself from the table to go sit in the couch while my body involuntarily twitched, they accepted us anyway.

I will wait on God as we are often called to do. But I am not waiting any longer to make changes in my life that I am able to do something about. I am done with the false piety, the false waiting and trusting. God alone is my song.

“A characteristic of Law is that friction, pain, and penalty result from its violation. Penalty is the shock we feel when we collide with Law. Speaking exactly, Law itself cannot be broken. If we transgress it, the Law remains intact, and we are broken.”
~Rays of the Dawn, Dr. Thurman Fleet~

I asked the chiropractor if there was anything I could do at home. I meant was there a spot on my stomach I could push on, or some way to twist my body that would give me some more tools in my “Help Myself” toolbox. He said, “Yes, read the book I gave you.” I’m glad he said that because I hadn’t been reading it. I’d started reading the part about the four laws of the body and couldn’t get through it without feeling sick and anxious.

So I quit reading that part and moved on to the laws of the mind and the soul. I’ve found these parts to be surprisingly much more enjoyable and enlightening. After reading the above lines, I don’t think I could ever use the phrase “breaking the law” ever again. We do not bend rules, as if such a thing were possible. We do not break the law. We transgress the law. To transgress is to cross over or go beyond a boundary or limit.

To go beyond a boundary or limit is to cross over into territory we were not created to encounter or endure. From higher above the earth I can see the Law as a giant heart-shaped marking, the divine revelation of human reality. It’s like the arms of God giving a giant hug to humanity. It’s God saying, “Stay right here, close and next to me”.

But the heart of God was not enough for mankind. We wanted more, and with a kiss, betrayed him. At that point a hug was not enough for God either. He called out to us to return and come home, to love him, know him, be close to him again. We couldn’t hear him anymore, for we were too far away. But he could still hear us, see us, still want us.

Does the heart of God break or does the heart of God, right then, begin to beat? Jesus comes to the earth and he comes as a man, not to hide himself as we had tried to hide from him, but to show us fully who God is. He transgresses no law, for God cannot betray his being, or be anything other than who he is. So God is love. He is one for all.