These are pictures I took after coming home from a church meeting. I drove down to main camp to see if I could get a picture of anything. If I don’t post them tonight, they’ll stay in my phone and become outdated. It isn’t much, but it’s all I had.

Fall has officially come and gone here. November is more of a rainy, cold, wintry month. Looking ahead we’ve got temps in the teens and 20’s for the lows, and 30’s to 40’s for highs. You could definitely feel the difference today. I looked outside several times and saw flurries, very faint ones. They had our first snow in the forecast for next week, but now when I look they’ve taken it out. It surely looked like it could snow today.

The big kids spent the morning and part of the afternoon up north. The volleyball girls have been playing in the 1A state tournament. Today they played in the championship game and placed second. Another mom and I (the in-town grilled cheese mom) had considered going up for the game, but we both ended up deciding to stay home and do mom things. I watched the game from my phone and was glad to have seen it.

Before that I spent the morning getting caught up on laundry. Half of it was washed, it just needed to be folded. If I am folding laundry, I have a certain way it needs to be done. I take it back downstairs and put it in the dryer for 1-2 minutes until its warm. Then I carry the basket back upstairs and fold the warm clothes, which I find to be cozy and more enjoyable. Laundry is one of those house chores I gravitate toward and find peaceful.

Dad and the boys spent the day outside. They had the fall work day today, where volunteers come and help get things put away and ready for winter. We have a new maintenance shed, so they moved most of the stuff from the old shed to the new shed. They put away the kayaks, canoes, and picnic tables. After that people cleared brush and raked leaves. When the boys came home, I had one of them run over to get some vegetable oil.

I needed oil for pumpkin muffins. They were ready by the time the big kids got home, and though I didn’t have the mudroom picked up or candles burning, the house smelled good and there was something warm on the stove. They’ve slowly been disappearing throughout the evening, which makes me happy. Dad had to go back and preach tonight in Springfield. I told him when he left that there’d be food for him when he came home.

These window pictures always feel so dramatic, but really I just like the light. It’s like you look up and all of sudden the LEGO book is there in color, and the blankets shine with the light of the sun. The only thing that showed up with the bloodwork in the summer was low Vitamin D, which is something that’s been low for the past almost four years. He wanted to check it again in three months, which ended up being more like four.

It went up by three points, which makes me wonder, was it always low? Is there something that keeps my body from absorbing it? The chiropractor tests from way back last April said I was immunosuppressed and that my batteries were only charging halfway (his words). They’re not like actual medical tests, so I didn’t know how much confidence to place the conclusions. One of the tests we’ve never redone. The other I requested to do over last November, which came back almost unchanged from the first.

I talked to my sister on the phone this morning. She said she was coming out of her cave and was ready to talk to humans again. It’s a definite thing, the pulling away and going silent, the withdrawing in order to come back free. Most of the leaves have fallen now, with the exception of the honeysuckle and a version of oak trees which always hang on longer. I rested a bit this afternoon, before heading out again tonight for class.

(Sometimes I just don’t know what to title these)

How firm a foundation, O saints of the Lord
Is laid for your faith in his excellent word
What more can he say than to you he has said
Who unto the Savior for refuge has fled
~How Firm a Foundation, LSB 728~

“Mom there’s nothing worse than having to write out long definitions.” He said it with a boyish matter-of-factness that made me laugh, that made me forget, if only for a moment, about winter and darkness and 15-page papers. But there he was, across the room in his chair, and I on the living room couch with my blanket, waiting for a returned again weakness to pass. I like it here, when afternoon time comes, when the boys return home with their backpacks and stories.

In the early weeks when school had started, they set their alarms one day for 6:30. Going through some sort of childhood freedom withdrawal, they made a fire and played in the backyard until 7, the time when they now regularly have to get up. It’s not like they even slept much longer before, but I guess there is a difference between casually rolling out of bed, eating breakfast in your pajamas with nowhere to go, versus having to be out the door by 7:30. I don’t mind the routine.

This time of the year the leaves actually fall, gently like snowflakes except that they’re leaves. The acorns and walnuts had their time and are done. One year it rained acorns, for almost two weeks it sounded like rain. The peak autumn colors have passed, which usually happens after a rain somewhere. Many people have commented on how beautiful the trees have been this year, and I have to agree with them. They say it depends on the temperatures and the timing of the rains.

I want to say I wasn’t
the only one who was proud

It was me who cried out
my words that were written

For years and years
in my collection of books

My truth came before you:
I am sick, heal my heart

I pleaded for you
to redeem this suffering

somehow

So why this? Why now?
Why not before?

I asked for healing
not to be broken even more

Things could’ve been different
you could’ve hurt me

Even more than you did
when you walked away fine

Still able to rise without
the hand of God holding

me

you down in your anger
his hand on your heart

You didn’t know me
You didn’t love me

Of all people, you
you are the one

I have shielded
And I will scream

And I did, with a hatred
so deep

so deep

You burst my bonds
You tore the sea in two

You opened the way
for love to come through

“It was the Spirit”, I first said
with his groans too deep

But no, no it wasn’t
He changed my answer

The scream, it was me
every decibel no more

If I’m not short of breath, I’ll take the stairs. It was the new internal scale of self-guidance that came to my mind in the split second I was needing to decide whether to take the stairs or the escalator. Anytime I am moving around I am always a little bit short of breath. Even that statement is a little revised, having had to redefine my terms, reassess what is normal and what is not. My breathing combined with the movement of my body has been out of sync since this whole thing started.

Most of the posts I’ve either deleted or not posted have had to do with the physical experiences of the past almost two years. Just typing that out is mind-boggling to me. Even as I’ve been well enough to go on with life, my mind is never far from what it’s just been through. I feel like I’ve been processing along the way, and yet there’s something going on that I can’t seem to name, a deeper meaning I can’t seem to get to. “I can’t believe I’m swimming right now”, I’ll think as I’m moving down the pool. When I’m walking on the indoor track, glancing at the clock with every lap, every 20-minute, 30-minute, 40-minute (I’ve only done that twice) block of time is a shock that can bring me to tears if I stop too long to think about it.

If I walk with my hand on my torso it helps, on my lower stomach, so my body can remember what it feels like to breathe there. Most of the people walking there lap me. I’m not walking for speed, or even distance or time, but for movement and practice in breathing while doing so. The exercise has been a regular, but not everyday thing. Since school I’ve been averaging 3-4 times a week in my Y visits, depending on the week. Last week I didn’t go as much. Overall, it’s been a blessing to go.

The rain began early this morning and is scheduled to stay until the evening. I don’t mind a rainy day, particularly when I get to enjoy it here within these walls. I keep thinking mornings should be spent on my own homework, and sometimes they are. But also I use the time to catch my breath, take a walk, call a relative, or go to the Y. After that there’s still plenty of time to look around see what other tasks call out to be chosen. A load of laundry, making the bed, sweeping the floor and remembering again how I used to love this.

That is, how deeply I used to believe in how the work of home mattered. Home was to be the place where hearts were bound to one another, the sanctuary in a restless world, the secret city on a hill, where nothing was done out of selfish conceit or ambition, when the praise of the world meant nothing and the works of your hands were blessed and ever-pleasing in God’s eyes. I hardly think of him now, or the home as holy work, of God being present in the ordinary and smiling when I change a diaper or whatever that Luther quote was.

There’s an Instagram account I can follow without internally rolling my eyes at all the homemaking jargon: maryannechallieshelms. I’ll read her posts and come away feeling warmed and inspired, to set the table with soup and crackers and my Pioneer Women bowls, to straighten a cluttered surface and ponder eternity. I look at her and think, “You’re really doing this, you still believe this”, for her over two whole decades later. She strikes me as someone who has truly excelled in the homemaking arts and the narrow way.

It looks different for everyone, the ways God transforms our souls to be holy vessels of his love, to be his hands and feet and givers of ourselves who are no more, who have been taken up and hollowed by the strings and harps and melodies. I would’ve loved for excellence and proficiency in every art, but I don’t mind being more of a generalist, being a little more less specialized in order to rest in the ministry of peace and contentment. Oh, I almost sound like one of them again, a woman of grace who fears the Lord.

This is all nonsense. And I am shaken back to earth with every song I’ve never written, every piano I couldn’t play to find a way to share my heart, to touch the souls, to reach the heavens, to set my mind on higher things, O who comes up with these sayings? I think I still believe it too, the way she goes on about lighting candles and washing bowls and chopping vegetables to roast for supper, and it didn’t matter who noticed, and it didn’t matter who thanked her, it didn’t matter when all the company of heaven had things to do.

Our overnight friend needed to catch a morning train. It was my husband’s morning to preach, so he left early to take him to the station. I was in charge of getting everyone to church. Over the years as I have carried this out, it is the norm for us to arrive a few minutes late. When the kids were smaller, the lateness seemed excusable. Obviously I had my hands full and just getting there and staying was an enormous accomplishment.

I’ve kind of just about had it with being the one who determines our arrival time. As your kids get older, you can’t hide your flaws anymore, or at least you can’t carry on in the same ways you have for years and years and expect the flaws to go unnoticed. So this morning, I was proud of myself for getting out the door by 8:45 to get there by 9 after I made sure the cats were fed. Cat chores and dishes are the parents’ job on Sundays.

On the 12 minute drive to church, a minor quarrel erupted. I didn’t help matters at all, at least I had no present or immediate evidence that anything I said in the car this morning registered, when I interjected my matronly wisdom, “Yeah, well, this is why God says to have a Sabbath day, because when you don’t, this is what happens.” I said it without malice, that hint of the old fading Sunday morning bitterness, but with a patience tried.

I cried after church when I couldn’t write. After lunch with my in-laws at the Pizza Ranch buffet, we had to get ready for the church trunk-or-treat. It reminded me of the mom in the memoir The Glass Castle, where all she wants to do is paint and be an artist but life requires her to do normal things like get a job. Instead I had to edit and make copies of a flyer for the upcoming Breakfast in Bethlehem that hardly anyone came to last year.

It’s been another busy weekend here. The kids had their regional cross country meet yesterday morning. Yesterday afternoon we had a lovely wedding at camp that lasted into the evening. I kept thinking that surely somebody’s prayers had been answered for the day, as the weather couldn’t have been more perfect for a fall outside wedding. The temperatures were in the high 70’s and low 80’s, with a light breeze and warm sun.

I have fields
of leaves galore
but no words

only hours wasted
on posts deleted
plenty more

abandoned drafts
I’d change
if I could

The kids had a cross country meet at home. It was held at what is now their former high school campus. Over the summer we received news that the school had suffered structural damage due to mine subsidence, which is when mines underneath the ground collapse causing the structures above them to sink below ground level. The building has not been officially condemned, but the entire student body and staff have been displaced.

They’ve been holding school in a Nazarene church across town, which is their secured place of residence for the next two years. Nobody has officially come out and said this, but everybody seems to understand that there isn’t going to be a return to this building. Between the state laws, insurance policies, and the damage itself, there are no current plans for rebuilding. They’ve lately begun the process of researching options.

The meet went by. It was the last regular season meet for the year. The temperature was in the 40’s, which is colder weather than August. Last night at the volleyball game was senior night, which included the cross country team’s two seniors. They read thank-you letters from each of the athletes. Our son thanked his dad for pushing him to be better, and his mom for putting up with all his many long hours away from home.