Today was kind of a bum day at work. I had two sessions in the morning and then the rest of the afternoon ones were cancelled due to threats of severe weather. The one I could’ve had was a no show. When I called him he was at work and said he’d completely forgotten about it. We have a policy where we technically can change $60 for a no show and we get half of that once it’s paid. The way I’ve been doing it is that everybody gets one freebie where they don’t get charged.

Some people have gotten two but those were extenuating circumstances. The couple I had today was a little more challenging than normal. Here’s the thing that I’m not quite sure how to deal with. You can have hurts that are so deep that people become almost validation vampires. When it gets to be that bad the validating and empathizing is certainly helpful, but it isn’t enough to start to fill in that gap. There has to be conscious decision on the vampire’s part to do some of it.

That’s a really hard thing to say to a person. It doesn’t absolve the other partner from doing things he should’ve already been doing for 28 years, but it helps to keep the process moving and needs to happen in order for them to keep moving. So I don’t know, maybe I’ll say it to her next time.